She Didn’t Want Him To Have A Choice In The Matter
“In my story, can’t say I was ever really asked. I was told.
I started casually dating this girl I met at a summer job. I was 21 and she was 20. A month or so into it, she reveals she’s going to school in the next state over, about a 7-hour drive. No big deal to me, I liked her a lot and we had fun.
Cut to about 4 months in and we’ve had our ups and downs, arguments that lead to her breaking up with me every so often. Then I would drive across state lines to go make up with her. She apologized every time and we get back together.
One day she calls me on Skype and says she’s ordering rings online. All I could see were red flags but it didn’t matter. She said she wanted people to know we were both taken while we weren’t together. I rationalized it, saying ‘so like promise rings?’ and she was like ‘yeah but they can be upgraded.’
Next time I visit she’s wearing a diamond ring and gives me a silver band. We walked around campus wearing them. It felt so wrong. She turns to me and says, ‘I can’t wait to tell my mom we’re engaged.’
I panic. I say we need to scale this back a bit and talk about it. She says I need to try harder. This goes on for quite some time.
A month later, as things were finally getting back to ‘normal,’ I get a phone call at 2 am. She tells me she’s been taken advantage of on campus. I immediately drive down to her college.
When I arrive, I tell her I’ll help her report it to the campus police. At this point, her story began to change. It was her ex, not some random guy. She let him in, he didn’t force his way in. I said I’d report it myself and she psychically stopped me from doing so. I went home after that.
Next day I get a big long text about how she cheated on me and just didn’t know how to tell me, so she made up that story. The icing on the cake is she did AGAIN and that’s when she realized she wants to ‘upgrade’ the rings and marry me.
I cut off communication with her completely. She traveled abroad for the rest of the year, constantly trying to contact me. She stalked me for a bit when she finally returned home. My sister ended up telling her off and that’s what did the trick. I took the rings to the woods and threw them in the mud. I attached a note with this story on it. Very dramatic but it was therapeutic.”