Go On Several Dates
Sameera agrees that the paradox of choice is one of the biggest problems engendered by online dating. “Endless options have kept more people single today,” she once told me. “Everyone thinks the grass is greener on the other side, and that there will always be another option around the corner.” As a result, people have unrealistic expectations, and if they aren’t completely blown away by someone on a first date, they will write them off in favor of going out with a new person, thereby throwing themselves into an endless cycle of first dates.
To combat this, Sameera suggests going outside of your comfort zone and dating people who you might not normally like, and going on several dates before you make up your mind.
“I know someone who went wasn’t into the guy at first and, by the seventh date, she really clicked with him,” she said. “Now they are dating exclusively. We live in a society where people are so easy to say no to. Get to know the person.”