It’s Not Just You
With all of the terrible things people do to each other online nowadays, it’s easy to think it’s just happening to you, and to let that hurt your self-esteem. Doubts start creeping in. Is there something wrong with me? Why does this keep happening to me? Why does it work out for others and not me? Am I just not good enough?
Sameera has had hundreds of clients and she’s seen it all many times over. All of the stuff that’s happened to you—a guy seeming interested but then suddenly vanishing, a girl who texts a lot but never wants to make plans—happen to everyone all the time, even to people that society deem to have a “high mate value.” As someone who writes about dating a lot, and who takes care to mask identities, people frequently share their tales of woe with me.
A gorgeous lawyer friend of mine recently went on several dates with a man who treated her really well, only to then suddenly dump her for no reason. Another stunning, ambitious friend of mine sent some nudes to a guy who asked for them, only to then never hear from him again (I can only assume he died from the sexiness).
This stuff happens to everyone all the time, and it’s important to remember that. Even if it takes some time to get it right, rest assured: it will work out in the end.